Marriage Guidlines

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Marriage Guidelines
The people of St. Mary's congratulate you on your decision to enter into marriage. God has called
you to live powerfully a most beautiful sacrament. Married Christians, in virtue of the sacrament of
matrimony, signify and share in the mystery of that unity and fruitful love which exists between
Christ and his Church.....Christ the Lord raised this union to the dignity of a sacrament so that it
might more clearly recall and more easily reflect his own unbreakable union with his Church. Rite
of Marriage, 1,2
The churches and facilities of St. Mary's available to you have been provided through the
sacrifice and generosity of deeply committed people of faith. The following information is given
you at this time not only to help you plan your wedding day so that it will be a dignified and
reverent expression of your lifelong marriage commitment but also with a the expectation that you
will treat these holy places with the respect and reverence which is due them and their
benefactors.


WHO MAY MARRY AT ST. MARY'S CHURCH
Baptized Catholics: All baptized Catholics residing in Summit and Wasatch Counties in Utah
may marry at St. Mary's in accordance with Church law. St. Mary's provides prenuptial
preparation and the ceremony for parishioners, as well as for the children of registered
parishioners and for non-registered Catholics who live full time within the boundaries of the
parish. Catholics living outside the boundaries of the parish require permission and preparation in
their local parish.


SCHEDULING YOUR WEDDING DAY
You may reserve the date and time for your wedding by returning the enclosed form and fee at
least 4 months prior to the date of the wedding.
St. Mary's Parish has available its two churches: The new church is located in Park City's entry
corridor in the meadow on highway 224 and White Pine Canyon Road. The Old Town Chapel is
located at 121 Park Avenue in Park City.
Weddings may be celebrated in the new church on Saturdays at 10:00 AM ; and 2:00 PM .
Weddings may be celebrated in the Old Town Chapel at 10:00 AM (Summers only), 12:30 PM,
3:00 PM , 5:30 PM. depending on availability and clergy schedules. Weddings may also take
place in either church on weekdays (other than holy days) but are not permitted on Sundays.
Additionally, Church law discourages wedding ceremonies during the season of Lent. When
Lenten ceremonies are necessary the rites are to be simple and unadorned.
The date and time for the rehearsal must also be scheduled. Rehearsals usually occur the
evening before the wedding.
One hour will be allocated for the rehearsal, and no more than 2 1⁄2 hours for the actual wedding
including the ceremony, receiving line and photography. Since other events are scheduled at our
churches please observe these time limits carefully.


PARISH WEDDING COORDINATOR
Upon receipt of the enclosed form and payment you will be e-mail confirmation of your wedding
date and rehearsal time. Please check this e-mail for accuracy. If there is any question
contact the parish secretary immediately. A parish wedding coordinator will be given
responsibility for assisting you in the celebration of your marriage ceremony. We wish to make
every effort to personalize your plans and make your wedding day as beautiful as possible. Your
parish wedding coordinator will contact you to set up an initial appointment to meet you both and
discuss your wedding plans. Your parish wedding coordinator will be available to you to respond
to the many practical details involved in planning a wedding. She will also conduct your rehearsal
and be present at the ceremony to ensure that everything goes smoothly. Do not hesitate to call
her if you have questions.
Note: Many couples elect to hire a professional wedding coordinator to attend to the many details
involved in the celebration of a wedding. These welcome professionals can be of great assistance
to you. If you hire a professional wedding coordinator please advise her in advance that a parish
coordinator is assigned to you by the parish to oversee the church-related details of your
wedding. Professional wedding coordinators have no responsibilities and no authority in
regard to your marriage preparation, planning your marriage ceremony, or the rehearsal
and ceremony itself. Further, it is important that you give to your professional wedding
coordinator a copy of these guidelines and explain that they are to be adhered to strictly.


CHURCH STIPEND FEE
The fees established for church usage are approved by the diocese.
Should a couple also wish to express appreciation to the priest or deacon for his services a
personal gift may be given him at the time of the ceremony.


PRE-NUPTIAL PREPARATION
Marriage preparation at St. Mary's is in accordance with canon law and diocesan policy. While
this preparation varies it normally includes 1) the completion of church documentation and
canonical forms, 2) attendance at diocesan programs, 3) parish mentoring and 4) the planning of
the ceremony.
1) Documents Needed
Church Documents
(All documents should be mailed to St. Mary's attn: Parish Secretary no later than one month
prior to wedding date.)
-A copy of baptismal certificates are required of all Catholic and baptized non-Catholics. Catholics
require an original certificate issued by the church of baptism dated within six months of the
wedding date.
-An affidavit of Marriage Freedom (to be obtained from the person conducting pre-nuptial
preparation) is required of both parties.
Civil Documents
-A civil marriage license must be obtained within 30 days of the marriage date from the County
Clerk of any county in Utah. Offices are open from 8:00 - 4:00 Monday through Friday. Fee is
$40.00. Blood testing is no longer required. Out-of-state licenses are not valid in Utah.
Civil marriage licenses may be obtained from the following offices:
1.Salt Lake County - 2001 South State St. South Bldg. 2nd floor
2. Summit County - 60 North Main, Coalville
3. Wasatch County - 25 North Main, Heber
2) Diocesan Programs
The Diocese of Salt Lake City offers two programs for those preparing for marriage: Catholic
Engaged Encounter and Seminar on Natural Family Planning. The latter is required of all couples
being married in a Catholic ceremony. For information call: Office of Family Life Pastoral Center
27 C St. Salt Lake City, UT 84111 Tel. 801-328-8641 801-328-8641
3) Parish Mentoring
Most parishes offer additional sessions either with the pastor or his delegates to focus on the
marriage commitment. These may include a mentor couple, the use of prenuptial questionnaires,
or professional counseling services.
4) Planning your ceremony at St. Mary's
Weddings of Catholics will be celebrated according to the rites of the Roman Catholic Church.
Any additions to the rite will be evaluated by the officiating priest/deacon as to suitability and in
light of cultural backgrounds of the couple.
The wedding coordinator will assist you in planning your ceremony. The readings, prayers, vows,
music, flowers and decorations, and photography require careful forethought and planning. The
following is meant to guide you in your planning:
Readings: The Word of God always takes precedence in all ceremonies with the Gospels in the
place of honor. Secular readings, poetry or personal prayers should be used sparingly and never
in place of the Scriptures. A selection of readings from the scriptures appropriate for wedding
ceremonies will be made available to you by the person doing your wedding preparation.
Prayers: A variety of prayers are used in both the Nuptial Mass and Nuptial Ceremony. Please
select from the options available.
Vows: Two formats for consent (vows) have been approved by the Church. Either may be used.
These vows should be memorized by the couple prior to the rehearsal in preparation for their
wedding. You will also want to memorize the brief text used at the exchange of rings.
Music: The principles guiding music for weddings are the same as those which form the basis for
music in all liturgies. Your parish wedding coordinator will assist you in the selection of attractive
and appropriate compositions. The following criteria should be kept in mind:
1. The musical judgment - Is the composition good and artistically sound, whatever its style?
2. The liturgical judgment - Is the selection appropriate to its place in the ceremony or the Mass?
Has consideration been given not only to musical selections requiring professional musicians but
also music appropriate for congregational participation including hymns, chants and service
music?
3. The pastoral judgment - At this religious service, will the piece of music help people to pray and
express their spirit of joyous worship?
In general, the music of Broadway shows, concert hall recitals, love songs or secular ballads are
best left to the wedding reception where another dimension of the celebration of marriage
prevails.
Ministries for your Wedding:
Organists and other musicians: Your wedding coordinator can recommend potential organists or
other musicians including soloists or singing groups. The Old Town Chapel has a Rodgers C220
keyboard. The organ in the new church is a single manual tracker pipe organ. Pianos are in both
churches. It is strongly recommended that musicians unfamiliar with the instruments in St. Mary's
churches and the acoustics of the buildings reserve in advance a time to practice prior to your
wedding.
Lectors: These readers of the Word should be chosen well in advance and may be family
members, friends or members of the wedding party. One or more lectors should be chosen to
read the Old Testament reading, the Responsorial psalm (unless sung), the New Testament
reading and the intercessions of the faithful. Lectors should plan to attend the rehearsal and have
their reading prepared. They should read from the Lectionary rather than from xerox copies.
Altar Servers: The use of altar servers is optional. One or more altar servers (girls or boys) may
be present to serve the ceremony or the nuptial mass. You may select relatives or friends to fill
this role if they are experienced.
Eucharistic Ministers: For a Nuptial Mass two Eucharistic ministers are needed for the distribution
of the cup. These must be practicing Catholics in good standing, preferably with experience in
this ministry in their local parish. The bride and groom may also be Eucharistic ministers. These
ministers are delegated by the priest celebrating the Nuptial Mass for this specific occasion.
Ring Bearers and Flower Girls: Both ring bearers and flower girls, though optional, can be used
in the wedding ceremony. There role is ceremonial. It is wise not to use children under four years
of age for these roles. Flower petals may not be dropped during the procession. It is also ill
advised to have the ring bearer carry the actual rings to be used during the ceremony.


DECORATION-FLOWERS-UNITY CANDLE
Altar: The altar is sacred. No candles, flowers or anything else
should ever be placed on it.

Liturgical Seasons
Decorations regularly adorn the church, the sanctuary, reredos and Gathering Space. These decorations are
never to be moved or rearranged to accommodate a wedding. Furniture, chairs, and floral displays are not to
be moved. Plan your wedding colors to complement those already present in the church. As a general
guide:
Month Themes Colors
early January Christmas red and white
mid January Ordinary Time green
February Lent** purple
March Lent** purple
April - May Easter white, spring colors
June-September Ordinary Time green
October-November Ordinary Time harvest themes
*Note: the above are meant as a guide. The dates for most seasons and feasts of the church
calendar vary. If this is important to you, be sure to check your wedding date's placement in the
liturgical year.
**The Season of Lent is a penitential season. Weddings are discouraged. When weddings occur
they should be done simply. Flowers and decorations are to be minimized.
Flowers
While there is no limit regarding the number of floral bouquets or arrangements for a wedding, in
both churches, less is more effective than more. Flowers and/or ribbons may be attached to the
pews if they can be easily removable without damaging the pew finish. NO TAPE AND NO NAILS
MAY EVER BE USED ON ANY SURFACES. If you are having decorations attached to the pews
or elsewhere, please be sure to have a designated person who will be responsible for removing
them immediately following the wedding.
No flower arrangements are permitted on the wooden sanctuary platform in the new church. They
may be placed on the floor at pew level. Stands are to be provided by the florist. Please insure
that your designated person assumes responsibility for their prompt removal and return. St.
Mary's is not responsible for returning items supplied by florists.
Your wedding coordinator has been instructed to remove any flowers or decorations deemed to
be in violation of these guidelines.
Suggestions for flowers in the new church: No wedding flowers are permitted on the wooden dais
and reredos. Flowers may be placed on the concrete floor. Because of the extreme height of the
church arrangements less than 10' high with stand are of no effect. Flowers will already be
present on the reredos of the new church. Small bouquets work well on the table for altar gifts at
the front of the aisle, at the shrine of the Blessed Virgin. Large arrangements can be placed on
stands at the entry doors, both to the church proper and the gathering space.
Suggestions for flowers in the Old Town Chapel: Free standing arrangements are permitted in the
sanctuary. Since the ambo is brought into the church for the wedding, allow space for it. Smaller
arrangements work well in the entry way. Bouquets can be placed in the window sills. Flowers
and/or ribbons on the pews are not recommended due to the narrowness of the aisle.
No fresh or artificial flower petals or leaves are to be spread inside or outside the new
church or Old Town Chapel. They are not only messy and can stain the floor but are
dangerous and increase risk of falling.
The Unity Candle
The unity candle is not part of the Catholic celebration of matrimony. We ask that if you desire a
unity candle, it be used at the rehearsal dinner or reception instead.
Balloons
The use of balloons or other helium-filled devices is prohibited.
Runners
Runners are unnecessary and dangerous, especially in the new church. No runners are permitted
in either church.
Photographers
Your wedding photos are important and precious. Time should be given to planning them
carefully with your photographer prior to your wedding day. A poorly informed photographer can
ruin your wedding. Inform your photographer of the 2 1/2 hour time constraint on your use of the
church. Flash photography is permitted during the procession into the church at the bride's
discretion. Only non-flash photographs may be taken during the wedding ceremony. The
photographer must be discreet and not distract from the ceremony. The photographer should be
well versed about Catholic sacred space and the reverence expected in our churches. In
particular, the Blessed Sacrament chapel behind the reredos is not to be entered for photo
purposes. A list of suggested photographers is available from your wedding coordinator. You are
not limited to this list. However, photographers not on the list are asked to meet with the wedding
coordinator prior to the wedding to clarify our expectations. Video cameras may also be used, but
must be placed unobtrusively in a stationary position. No cameras or videos are ever permitted
on the sanctuary platform. Photos may be taken in the church and on the church grounds before
or after the ceremony.
Please inform your photographer and wedding party that the church is not a studio but a house of
worship demanding due proper reverence and respect. A photographer’s formal portrait session
can be quite time consuming. Since only 2 1/2 hours are allocated for each wedding, and to
prevent conflict with events scheduled after your wedding, consider taking your formal portraits
before the ceremony. Your photographer will appreciate it, and it will also help you begin your
ceremony on time and arrive at your reception in a timely fashion. Please remember to observe
proper reverence whenever you are in the church.
Dressing for the ceremony
The bride and her party may dress and prepare for the wedding at the church. The groom and his
party should arrive at the church dressed and prepared.
Old Town Chapel: the bride and her party may dress in the catechetical center attached to the
church.
St. Mary's Church: the bride and her party may dress in the parish meeting room adjacent to the
gathering space.
Church Etiquette
Courtesy and respect should characterize your wedding day. The church in particular is to be
honored as a place of quiet reverence. It is a place of prayer. Conduct conducive to prayer is
expected. The following is a brief list of things to keep in mind:
1) Please designate a friend or member of your family to be oversee cleanup of the church and
bridal areas after the ceremony. This includes removal of personal belongings of the wedding
party; attachments to pews, cleanup of the bridal preparation area and returning all spaces to
their original setup. This important person is also asked to return all areas to the cleanliness and
the orderliness in which you found them by removing all boxes and hangers, make-up kits and
spray bottles.
2) In the Catholic Church it is proper that your guests be invited to the Nuptial Mass or the
Wedding Ceremony. The physical addresses are provided below. An invitation to attend just the
reception with passing mention (or inserted card) that the marriage will take place in a church is
inappropriate.
Old Town Chapel physical address:
St. Mary of the Assumption Church
121 Park Avenue
Park City, UT

Approximate seating 125


St. Mary's Church physical address:
St. Mary of the Assumption Church
1505 W. White Pine Canyon Road
Park City, UT

Approximate seating 600


3) No rice or bird seed is to be thrown inside or outside the church. They are not only messy but
dangerous. Approved wild flower mixes used as a sign of life may be thrown outside the new
church, or a tree may be planted as a perpetual memorial of your marriage.
4) Rehearsal Information: The church is the House of God and the same quiet reverence that is
normally displayed will be expected at the rehearsal and before the ceremony begins. Please
dress appropriately. Extremely casual attire is both disrespectful and distracting. Please meet
your wedding coordinator in the catechetical center (Old Town Chapel) or gathering space (St.
Mary's Church) to begin the rehearsal. After all have gathered and been welcomed a brief
introduction to the ceremony will be given and then you will proceed to enter the church. Bring
your Marriage License so that it may be completed during the rehearsal.
5) Other events are often scheduled in our churches on the day of the wedding. Therefore to
avoid being rushed and to make the greatest use of the limited time in which you have reserved
the church, please have all the members of the wedding party be prompt for both the rehearsal
and the wedding.
6) The presence of alcoholic beverages during the rehearsal and prior to the wedding is
inappropriate. Food or beverages of any kind are never to be brought into the church.

Note: Since alcohol may impair a person’s freedom and consent it may also adversely
affect the validity of marriage. Accordingly, should a wedding coordinator notify the
minister of the ceremony of the presence of alcohol among the members of the wedding
party, the minister at his discretion may cancel the wedding immediately.